Grandmas and Favorites

Tomorrow is Gramma J's 93rd birthday! To celebrate the family gathered at Red Lobster for dinner tonight.

Gramma J is my wife's maternal grandmother. Effie, as the family calls her, took my wife in when she found herself 18, pregnant and separated from her first husband who remained behind in California. Chris grew close to her grandmother and Effie developed a special relationship over the years with her new great grandson Jason.

While few would be comfortable admitting to favorites, Jason is clearly Effie's. In fact he is most likely the reason we are celebrating a 93rd birthday in the first place. Bouncing back from congestive heart failure that nearly took her a couple of years ago, Gramma J fought to be around to see Jason get married. This past year she rode her anticipation of the birth of her first great great grandchild when Jason's wife gave birth to Destiny Michelle. It was no accident we ate at Red Lobster - It has always been Jason's favorite restaurant.

Now I've known other grandmothers who have had a favorite grandchild or great grandchild. Upon her passing my ex's paternal grandmother left her home to her favorite great grandchild Kevin. I always appreciated that both of my own grandmothers held me as special, although I don't recall either showing partiality. It is not my intent to blast favoritism here. Jason and Kevin both gave much more time, attention and love to their great grandmothers than anyone else in their families and both Grandmas merely expressed their deep appreciation.

Are you anyone's favorite? Is their anyone in your family who is your own favorite? Do you feel it is wrong to show favoritism?

Peace and blessings to you all. Have a great weekend!

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